Nurturing the Next Great Generation

THE FUTURE IS FRIENDLY BECAUSE IT IS US

In 2003, an international consortium known as the Human Genome Project published a complete draft of humanity’s DNA code. This was a phenomenal accomplishment that laid the foundation for today’s…

In 2003, an international consortium known as the Human Genome Project published a complete draft of humanity’s DNA code. This was a phenomenal accomplishment that laid the foundation for today’s revolution in medical research and drug development. There’s now tremendous optimism that ruinous diseases—from cancer to Alzheimer’s—can be conquered.

Contrast this with what we see happening in the worlds of politics and international relations, which resemble a massive dumpster fire. I “doomscroll” on my phone along with everyone else, but in the midst of the ongoing shitshow, I see an overarching reason for hope: my grandchildren.

It’s time for a new consortium with a new goal: revealing the basic building blocks of what it means to be a good person. What I’ll call the BBGP code.

We’ve become very focused in our society on intractable and foundational problems. Yet the reality is that there are also foundational solutions. If we can discover the BBGP code—with elements such as kindness, helping others, and being civil and respectful in the face of disagreement—I’m convinced it will lead to a new and transformational epoch for our world.

When I was doing research for my Good Grandpa book, I talked with grandfathers from all walks of life to hear their stories and ultimately gather and share their wisdom. The totality of what I heard from these men (plus my Aunt Lois and the Dalai Lama) gave me at least an inkling of what the BBGP can become: not one single idea, but rather a constellation of North Stars to live by.

My late father, Bill Page, is a central character in Good Grandpa. I mention him here because he was a proponent of what’s known as the Epigenetic Rules. He believed human behaviors are guided by genes. For example, behaviors like reciprocity (one of the rules) are hardwired into our genes—and for a reason: if we return favors done for us, it helps us survive. Dad believed passionately that if we could fully understand the Epigenetic Rules, we could better manage our behaviors.

When my dad passed on in 2011, we kept his office chalkboard writings intact. He’d written out a whole series of great goals for humanity and a methodology for achieving them. One sentence stands out:

THE FUTURE IS FRIENDLY BECAUSE IT IS US.

Notes written by my father, William R. Page, on the chalkboard in his office in Vermont.

 

In a very uncertain world, I’m 100% certain of two interrelated things:

  1. if we understand the basic building blocks of what makes for a good person, and
  2. if we nurture our families with these principles in mind,

it will lead to a world so beautiful that it is presently beyond our imagining.

Actually, there’s a third thing: my wonderful father was right. The future will be friendly.

Me with my eldest grandson, Henry, on top of the world.

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Free Creative Memoir Writing Workshops for Veterans (worth every penny)

There were many twists and turns in my Good Grandpa book writing journey, but the biggest for me was researching the chapter that featured grandpas who had served in each…

Captain Gresh Lattimore (left), with Ted Page, author of Good Grandpa.

There were many twists and turns in my Good Grandpa book writing journey, but the biggest for me was researching the chapter that featured grandpas who had served in each branch of the military (including Gresh Lattimore). I was deeply moved by their stories. Some people may think that serving is about fighting, while some in politics say we Americans should pray for violence against those who “deserve no mercy.” Based on what I learned, that’s not at all what vets are about. To a man, every vet I spoke with does volunteer work to help others. For them, service is a lifelong commitment.

This made me ask myself what I have done to serve. The answer: Not enough!

That’s why I’m piloting a new creative memoir writing workshop for vets. Writing about my life as a grandpa has unlocked doors of understanding deep within me. Writing is also therapeutic, which can be especially valuable for those who have experienced war. While I’m not a veteran, I grew up with a father who had served as a naval officer aboard an armed transport at the battle of Okinawa. He was dive bombed repeatedly, and suffered lifelong PTSD as a result.

My dad, Bill Page (top row, 5th from right) aboard the USS Burleigh.

In my writing workshop, I will channel my love for dad into helping vets tell their own stories.

The workshops will take place on Zoom, or in-person if we have a session close to where I live outside Boston, or in Northern Vermont. Initially, the workshops will take the form of a 90-minute tutorial where I’ll offer up storytelling tips, then invite participants to ask questions or share what they’d like to write about.

If you are part of a Veterans’ organization and would be interested in a workshop, you can reach me by emailing: Ted(at symbol here)goodgrandpa.com.

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Looking for my Good Grandpa book? It’s here.

My Good Grandpa book is available for purchase on all the major online retailers, and you can get your copy through these links. To find it on Amazon, click here….

My Good Grandpa book is available for purchase on all the major online retailers, and you can get your copy through these links. To find it on Amazon, click here. For Barnes & Nobles, click here. Walmart? Right here.

I know a lot of people who prefer to support their local bookstores (I’m one of them). Most independent stores will order Good Grandpa for you so you can pick it up.

Also, I’d be more than happy to sign your copy, or inscribe it to whoever you want to give it to. If you reach out to me via this email — ted (at symbol here) goodgrandpa.com, I’ll make it happen (due to the volume of requests, it requires mailing me your book with a return package/postage included, and include the name of the person you’re giving it to and what you’d like me to write).

Here’s a funny story related to inscribing books. Quite a few folks have given me two copies to inscribe for the grandpas in their life, and say, for example, “This one is for John. He’s a really good grandpa. This one is for Pete, he’s not so good.”   I find this to be hysterical and charming. We’re all trying our best, right?

Thank you for checking out the book and sharing it with loved ones. I’m hoping the words of wisdom in Good Grandpa will help our grandchildren be the greatest generation ever.

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How to Make a Donation to the Kim Long Orphanage

If you have read my Good Grandpa book, you’re familiar with the wonderful story shared with me by Bob Staranowicz, a grandpa and Vietnam combat veteran. During Bob’s tour of…

If you have read my Good Grandpa book, you’re familiar with the wonderful story shared with me by Bob Staranowicz, a grandpa and Vietnam combat veteran.

During Bob’s tour of duty in the war, Bob tagged along with a buddy one day to bring laundry for cleaning by the Catholic nuns who run the Kim Long Orphanage in Hue, Vietnam. The kids welcomed him in, joyously, and over time through many visits he befriended them. Bob organized a fund drive back in Philly for the orphanage, work that continues to this day. I’ve made donations, and you are welcome to join me and the many others who’ve gotten behind Bob’s efforts.

Vietnam doesn’t have the same kind of non-profit structures we have in America, so Bob gathers checks from donors in an account and sends a lump sum to the orphanage each year. In 2025, Bob wired $4500 to Sister Chantal, equating to about 118 million Vietnam Dong. This will go a long way towards feeding and clothing the many children there.

Here’s how you can contribute:

Make your check out to Kim Long Orphanage c/o Bob Staranowicz

Mail to:

Bob Staranowicz

5016 Sundance Ct

Doylestown PA 18902

You can also reach out to Bob with questions with this email bobstar101(at symbol here)gmail.com

Thank you!

 

 

 

 

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Lighting One Candle

When I was growing up, our Christmas Eve tradition started with going to church. For us, that meant the First Parish Unitarian church located on the town green of our…

When I was growing up, our Christmas Eve tradition started with going to church.

For us, that meant the First Parish Unitarian church located on the town green of our hometown in Lexington, Massachusetts. My mom, who bore some resemblance to Julia Child in size and manner, was no fan of organized religion—she described Christian dogma as “a bunch of whooey,” but First Parish offered an openness to all faiths, whether they were whooey or not. And when it came to Christmas Eve, there was no place better on Earth to get into the spirit of the holiday.

We’d huddle into our pew, my parents and four older brothers, each holding an unlit candle in the dimly-lit nave.

After singing a few carols, the minister would welcome us to the yearly candle lighting ceremony. He’d speak to the meaning of light, its warm beauty, its spiritual nature, and always conclude by saying, “It is better to light one candle than to curse the darkness.” Then, as we sang O Holy Night, the lighting of the candles commenced, one pew at a time, each person lighting the candle of the person next to them, and within minutes a whole constellation of candles illuminated our church — and yes, even our not very religious hearts.

I thought of those Christmas eve candle lightings a lot this year as we got together with our family — including all five grandchildren.

Gathering in one house these days is a miracle all by itself (last year was a ‘COVID Christmas,’ not to mention my son-in-law’s Norovirus). This Christmas was blessedly illness-free. We all had so much fun together, opening presents, playing games, going for walks, having raucous family dinners as the grandkids talked up a blizzard with their cousins.

The joy we experienced occurred during what I would charitably call a massive shit-storm: immigrant children across America being ripped from their parents arms, the tragic murder of Rob Reiner and his wife followed immediately by the President disparaging the couple on Truth Social, the mass-shooting of Jews in Australia, the mass-shooting of students at Brown University, War in Ukraine, and on and on and on. These are dark times indeed. And there we were, suddenly, all together in our living room by the Christmas tree.

The room was crowded, the grandkids boisterous and laughing, including baby Blythe (the youngest) taking her first steps as we all cheered her on. That room was full of so much light. So much love. It was our candle in the darkness.

As I look to the New Year, my goal is to carry that light inside me at all times, no matter what. But beyond that, I hope to spread more light through my actions and those of our larger family. Instead of buying multiple presents for each of our grown children and their spouses, my wife and I made donations to charities tailored to their interests (my daughter, who adores animals, was honored with a donation to an animal shelter).

Taking a page from the grandpa veterans I profiled in my Good Grandpa book, I plan to do a better job of serving the community as an extension of our family. I’m starting by offering a creative memoir writing seminar for veterans so they can learn how to tell their life stories. It’s not a heavy lift on my part (I still work full time). And not a whole church full of candles by any means. Just one. But it beats doom scrolling in the dark any day of the week.

IF YOU ARE PART OF A VETERANS GROUP AND WOULD BE INTERESTED IN MY FREE CREATIVE WRITING WORKSHOP, YOU CAN REACH ME HERE: TED (AT SYMBOL) GOODGRANDPA.COM

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Check out my Al Roker book launch interview on the TODAY Show!

Wath the interview here NBC TODAY show.  Here’s the  story: In my wildest dreams, if I could pick any celebrity TV host to help me tell the world about my…

Me with Al Roker — a very good grandpa.

Wath the interview here NBC TODAY show. 

Here’s the  story:

In my wildest dreams, if I could pick any celebrity TV host to help me tell the world about my Good Grandpa book, it would be Al Roker. He is well-loved by millions of TODAY show viewers — the most popular morning show on television. And he’s a grandpa (Pop-Pop to his granddaughter, Sky).

My wildest dreams have come true.

My publicists at Fortier PR came through for me big time. They reached out to NBC’s producers back in June and I sent an advanced copy of Good Grandpa to them for review — one copy signed for Al Roker. The producers immediately expressed interest. Sure enough, in early August they confirmed not only that they wanted to do a segment for the show, but that Al wanted to come to my house to interview me!

Any author would do backflips upon hearing this news. Since I had just turned 66—with limited gymnastic skills—I settled for jumping jacks.

A date was set for the interview, and we decided to have it take place at my daughter’s house in Connecticut, requiring less travel for Al. As fate would have it, my daughter Abigail’s kitchen was under construction. The whole family dived in to help get the rest of the house as ship-shape as possible for national television. A senior NBC producer arrived in the morning with a small crew, and Al arrived at noon. Right away, his personality filled the room. It was immediately clear why Al has become a celebrity — from his engaging, warm personality, to the bright fresh flower on the lapel of his jacket.

Al Roker is a gentleman through and through.

The producer said Al would interview me for around 15 to 20 minutes. We ended up speaking for close to an hour. The reason is, I think, because Al and I both share the extraordinary experience of grandfatherhood. We had a chance to compare notes, talk about love and purpose, and think together about the difference we can make in the lives of our grandchildren. I even had a chance to ask Al a few questions.

Al and I ‘on set’ in the living room.

 

The interview was a great experience for our family. My grandsons, Charles and Henry, learned a lot about TV production.

 

I am deeply grateful to my family for helping make the special day happen, especially my daughter, Abigail, and my wife, Nancy. A big thanks is also due to David Wolpert with Fortier PR, who doggedly pursued this amazing opportunity.

Have I mentioned that Good Grandpa can now be ordered on Amazon and other sites?

Love,

Grandpa Ted

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Interview live!

Click this link to hear the interview now on WBUR, Boston’s NPR affiliate. I had a wonderful conversation with host Asma Khalid about my Good Grandpa book, which is now…

Click this link to hear the interview now on WBUR, Boston’s NPR affiliate.

I had a wonderful conversation with host Asma Khalid about my Good Grandpa book, which is now available for purchase on Amazon and other sites. She asked great questions, and I’m pleased to say I sounded at least somewhat intelligent. I’m new to the world of book publicity so I find the whole process is fascinating. Soon I will share news of my upcoming interview on one of the top three morning TV shows.

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